3 power-statements to help you take control of your life

Only you are responsible for the life you live. What are you doing about it?


Hey there friends!

I’d like to share a quick recap of the three power-statements that I shared with you on this video.

  •  I am unwilling to allow my present and past circumstances to become permanent conditions.

You are not obligated to repeat your past. Let this power-statement be more than a declaration. Turn it into a lifestyle. Make your choices match your words and step into newness of life.

  • I am unwilling to allow anything or anyone to keep me from   (fill in the blank)     .

What do you desire out of life? Is it happiness? Fulfillment? Purpose? A career? What ever your dream might be, protect that dream with all that you are, and all that you hope to be. Use this power-statement as a declaration that you have set your goal, and nothing under the sun, will keep you from reaching it.

  • I am unwilling to settle for being anything other than my best.

Make a declaration that you are committed to show up as the very best “version of you” every day, for the rest of your life. There is no need to settle for mediocre when you have the ability to live out loud and be 100% you.

*quick reminder*  It is your responsibility to take control of your future. Nobody else can steer your life in the direction that you desire, but you. Rise to the occasion! Be your own hero today.


John Garay



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4 ways to save time and money on your bachelor degree (PART 4- Community Colleges)

Hi Friends,

One of the best ways to save money on your bachelor degree is to earn your general education credits at a community college. The cost of tuition at a community college is significantly less that that of a university. However, it’s best to take on this endeavor with a plan. I recommend the following:
1. Find out the general education requirements of the bachelor degree program that you want to transfer into.

2. Meet with your academic counselor to take courses that are equivalent to the required courses in program of your interest.

3. Don’t take any courses that are not required for transfer.  Using this option will cut down the cost of your education significantly.

I hope you have enjoyed this series. Feel free to ask any questions in the comment box below.


John Garay

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4 ways to save time and money on your bachelor degree (PART 3- Tuition Benefits)

Hi Friends,

Are you looking for a job to earn some extra-cash while you are in school? If so, you might consider looking for employment with a company that offers tuition benefits.

Many companies offer a full or partial tuition benefit as part of their total benefit package. It may be in your best interest to research companies that offer such a benefit as you search for work.

I hope this series has been helpful for you. Please join me tomorrow as I talk to you about how to save money by earning your general education credits at a community.


John Garay

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4 ways to save time and money on your bachelor degree (INTRO)

Hi Friends,

As a personal development coach, one of my favorite things to do is to help my clients reach their education and career goals. One of the ways that I help my clients is to inform them of ways that they can save time and money on earning their degree.

Tomorrow I am starting a 4 day video series to share some of the tips that I share with my clients. You won’t want to miss this if you are currently exploring the possibility of returning to school.

I look forward to having you join me these next four days.


John Garay

It is my desire to partner with you on your journey
I am available to coach you as you set goals and create a path to reach them
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3 steps to help you prepare for college

#46 - Back To School

I always encounter people who are looking to return to school at the start of each new year. As an individual who has worked in higher education, and that is currently a non-traditional student, this excites me. I always advocate for education when people seek a career change, an increase in salary, or personal advancement in life.

If you are exploring the possibility of returning to school, or if you know of someone that is, I’d like to share a three-step process to help you with your pursuit.

  • Clarify your goals

In his book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, Steven Covey suggests that highly effective people “always begin with the end in mind”.  I believe that this is great advice. Clearly defined goals help us find a starting point and serve as a guide for making decisions. We have a tendency to run around aimlessly without one. Without clear direction, you may find yourself changing your degree program several times before you align yourself with one that fits you.

Most people return to school to find a fulfilling and purposeful career that leads to an increase in salary. If you are unsettled as to which degree will help you find this, I encourage you to sit down with a pen and paper and ask yourself the following question; “If there were no limits in life, and I could have any career that I wanted to have, what would I want it to be?”

When you ask yourself this question, you may find yourself coming up with a whole bunch of ideas. Once the ideas start coming to mind, make a list of them. Once you are finished, circle the top 3-5 career choices that resonate best with you. Then take your condensed list, and over the next few days, begin to research each career choice. Use your research to identify which of the career choices aligns most closely with your dreams, passion, life purpose, and desired salary. Use these factors to determine which of the career choices will work best for you.

  • Determine what type of degree is needed

There may be more than one degree path that leads to your career of choice. For example, in my line of work, it is common for me to hear people say, “I want to work with autistic children.” While many of them will opt to apply for a social work or special education degree program, there are many other degree programs that may help them achieve their career goal. Depending on the job title they want to have, they may select from an abundance of other degree programs; such as occupational therapy, nursing, human development, family science, human services, and non-profit management. It is likely that you will have several degree plan options to choose from too.

Before you settle on a degree program, I always recommend that you interview someone that works in your field of interest. Their experience will help you find out which degree programs will make you more marketable and desirable to your future employer. Although many people recommend that you speak with an academic counselor about career options, I do not recommend doing this until after you have done your research. Most academic counselors and admissions representatives are versed in the language and lingo of the department that they work in. They may not be familiar with opportunities that other degree programs may create for you.

  • Create a plan.

Determine what your next step will be. Will you research schools? Search for scholarships? Apply for financial aid? Whatever the steps in your plan may be, I encourage you to write them down and set firm deadlines for each task that you have listed. You may also want to share your goals with someone that you can trust to encourage you, and hold you accountable, as you start this new journey.
Until Next Time…. I wish you blessings and prosperity…….. Godspeed!

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I’m right…. you’re wrong


I’m right, you’re wrong, that’s the truth…. or so I thought….

Recently I came to the realization that I have a serious problem. Somewhere in the course of this life, I came to the conclusion that “I am always right.” If I was the sole survivor on earth after the zombie-apocalypse this would not be a problem, but this is not the case. Unfortunately, I’m faced with the fact that I live on a planet, surrounded with people, who just like me, have come to the conclusion that they are always right too.

Being that we as humans are physiologically programmed to be relational beings, this innate need to be “right” is problematic in our day to day interactions with others. I am unable tell you how many times I have personally driven a wedge between others and myself when the “need to be right” mysteriously appeared in the midst of a conversation and crushed the person that I was speaking with. I must also mention that I know that I am not the sole sufferer of this malady. I have been a witness to the damage that this demon has brought to families, marriages, friendships and careers. Yet, very few of us are willing to let go of the reins of this beast.  I wish I could tell you that I knew how to tame it, but I can’t. What I can tell you is that I’m tired of dealing with it and I’m searching for a solution.

For a minute I wanted to blame this problem on the manner in which we were educated. From kindergarten to twelfth grade we are programmed to know the right answers because we are told that we will be tested. We are then explained that the result of not knowing the right answer could be detrimental to our progress. Then the need to be right is once again enforced at the university level as graduate and doctoral students are called upon to defend their thesis. Also, as a former pastor, I recognize, in retrospect, that I was taught and I myself taught others to know what they believe and to defend what they believe. While I recognize the importance of faith, I also recognize that at times my arrogance gets in the way of the message of hope that I try to convey.

So what now???

Along with my discovery of this problem, I have also discovered a way to deal with it. It’s called, “Owning up to your problems.” I wish I could say that it was fun and enjoyable. Unfortunately, it’s quite the opposite. In fact it can be painful and humbling. But at the end of it, there is a clearing… there is a possibility to build something new on what is no longer there.  This is the point of life where I find myself right now. It’s an exciting one and I’m looking forward to what this moment and the moment to come brings. At this moment, I have an amazing marriage, I have an amazing family, I have amazing friends, I have an exciting career….. and this is just the beginning….. but for now…… I will savor the moment.

*This was posted on a prior blog of mine, “unleashed lion”, in November 2013.

The Background Singer


This morning, as I listened to one of my favorite songs being played on the radio, I found myself captivated by the harmonies being sung by the background singer. I listened intently as, note by note, the background singer majestically boosted the lead singer’s performance. Although it was the lead singer who shined through, the background singer remained behind the scene as a constant presence and navigated the melody seamlessly.

Throughout my life, I’ve been quite intuitive and discerning. Today, as I listened to the radio, my intuition was on overdrive. Listening to the beauty of the song and lyrics brought me to the realization that, in life, I am quite like a background singer.

Now, before you become entranced with the temptation to recruit my singing services, I must give a disclaimer. By no means am I professional vocalist. However, I have found that I am most satisfied in life when I am helping others succeed. In fact, I feel that I am most in my element when I am present with others as they face life’s challenges, navigate through options, and brainstorm for greatness. I enjoy being a catalyst that motivates others to thrive.

Knowing this, I have dreamed of an opportunity to build a platform that enables me to harmonize with people who are looking to launch their lives to a higher level of performance. I have spent the greater part of this year equipping myself with tools necessary to turn this dream into a reality. In a few weeks I will be completing a Certificate of Excellence in Life Coaching. This is one of the last pieces remaining for me to launch a life, career, and business coaching practice. 2016 will be the year that gives birth to “A Thriving Mindset”. Meanwhile, I ask you to consider joining me in my endeavor to make our current realities a better place.

I look forward to what the future holds for us.




John E. Garay