Early on in life, I learned that the quality of my friendships is greater than the quantity of friendships that I have. Thankfully, I’ve been fortunate enough to have cultivated several meaningful friendships that have withstood the sands of time and that have contributed greatly to my quality of life. On the other hand, I’ve also experienced the occasional person or two that seems to be the kryptonite to my happiness. Here are some lessons that I’ve learned along the way.
True friends are genuinely concerned about your well being.
Self-serving people are more concerned with what you have to bring to the table.
True friends accept you with all your flaws, imperfections, values, and beliefs.
Self-serving people try to make you conform to their own version of perfection.
True friends are dependable.
Self-serving people leave you feeling uncertain. They may or may not be there when you need them.
True friends respect you enough to be honest with you, but also respect you enough to allow you to make your own decisions.
Self-serving people ridicule you and make unreasonable demands from you.
True friends are great listeners.
Self-serving people hoard the conversation.
True friends are thoughtful in word and action.
Self-serving people feel entitled to your service.
True friends forgive.
Self-serving people hold on to grudges.
Yesterday I woke up with a grateful heart for so many things…. but my gratefulness for the amazing people that God has placed in my life stood above all them all….
(My hand was shaky, I hope I don’t make you dizzy with the video)
This morning, as I listened to one of my favorite songs being played on the radio, I found myself captivated by the harmonies being sung by the background singer. I listened intently as, note by note, the background singer majestically boosted the lead singer’s performance. Although it was the lead singer who shined through, the background singer remained behind the scene as a constant presence and navigated the melody seamlessly.
Throughout my life, I’ve been quite intuitive and discerning. Today, as I listened to the radio, my intuition was on overdrive. Listening to the beauty of the song and lyrics brought me to the realization that, in life, I am quite like a background singer.
Now, before you become entranced with the temptation to recruit my singing services, I must give a disclaimer. By no means am I professional vocalist. However, I have found that I am most satisfied in life when I am helping others succeed. In fact, I feel that I am most in my element when I am present with others as they face life’s challenges, navigate through options, and brainstorm for greatness. I enjoy being a catalyst that motivates others to thrive.
Knowing this, I have dreamed of an opportunity to build a platform that enables me to harmonize with people who are looking to launch their lives to a higher level of performance. I have spent the greater part of this year equipping myself with tools necessary to turn this dream into a reality. In a few weeks I will be completing a Certificate of Excellence in Life Coaching. This is one of the last pieces remaining for me to launch a life, career, and business coaching practice. 2016 will be the year that gives birth to “A Thriving Mindset”. Meanwhile, I ask you to consider joining me in my endeavor to make our current realities a better place.
I look forward to what the future holds for us.
John E. Garay